Selling out from under you
I told someone at 1157am that I wanted to buy an item. She told me at 457 that item was still for sale 5hours later. I had already told her I wanted it. Then she sells to someone else. Her name is Angela Morris. If someone said they wanted to buy it shouldn't the next thing they said is to set up time and place?
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1- If you're complaining about them not replying until 5pm, it sounds like you have an expectation that they always be available at your beck and call at any given moment, instead of understanding that people have jobs, etc.. Sounds to me like they probably got right back to you as soon as they were getting off work.
2- When you are a seller, you will see for yourself how many people say they want an item, but never follow through, or flake out, no show, etc. That is why most people say "no holds" and "first come first serve." Because out of a dozen supposedly "interested" buyers, sometimes only one or two will actually come through. So you can't expect to just be able to call "dibs" on something... as so many people do that but then take their sweet time completing the sale, if ever at all, and meanwhile, other interested and more serious buyers are being turned down because of it. So it's not enough to just say "I want this." (In my experience only about 10-20% of people who say that ever even end up buying the item versus ending up wasting my time) Even people who set appointments fail to show. So bottom line is NO HOLDS is simply the most common rule of thumb for sellers, as anything else is too often a waste of time or costs them sales from more serious buyers.
Besides, how do you know you were the only or even the first person messaging her about it? She might have had someone message her before you did, and that person completed the purchase before you did.
Bottom line is items go to the buyers who actually make the sale happen quickly, not those who simply call dibs and think that is as good as money.
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I agree with you the proper and ethical thing is to acknowledge you said you wanted to buy correct? You pressed the make offer for the asking price not the chat button. So you made the start of the sale. I have found that many people on here are rude and do not have seller ethics therefore I assume they have no intentions to stick around for the long haul. I'm sorry you encountered this. I've been on both sides but I do it in the order it came after all I intend to stick around and would like to grow my rating. Good luck in the future and just remember rude people are everywhere including online no matter how kind and follow through you are. I personally think it's their lose and they saved me a buck to give to someone who may truly deserve and need it more. Take care :)
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I agree that there are good buyers and good sellers. Its all the others that are not considerate of others people time who ruin it for all other. My rule even though I still get 75% no show is i will hold an item for 24 hours only after a definite pick up hour time frame is set.
I feel you can not even review those not showers (with a place and time set) who never notify you or apologize even after you later privately message them after if they are still interested? I'm not perfect nor do i live in a glass house LOL. I know life does happens and I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt on all not shows and privately message them. Mostly I get not response. I've even been blocked after politely asking if they are still interested mention that I was at meeting place at time and place agreed on.
I even had those that have blocked me after a no show no notification without the courtesy of a simple "sorry they forgot or had an emergency and that they are no longer interested in my item" Then when I've tried to leave a review to share my experience by saying this person no showed and did no notify me.. When a definite Pick Up Time and Place Was Agreed On. Then they block me after I privately contacted them after to give them an opportunity to explain or discuss any misunderstandings or what happened. I state that I feel this person was not considerate of my time. That maybe they thought if they blocked me so I could not leave a review. The few times I did this when everything is clear in the private messages. I get the retaliatory bad review back stating I am a Liar and there was never an agreement on place or time. and never blocked me.All I had to do is report that review. 5mile they can read the private 5mile messages and determine who is the Liar. Always those reviews have been removed from my profile. I had even been verbally threatened, stalked and harassed for over a year by one seller who i never agreed to buy anything and never I never meet but for reasons Im unclear of. They have contacted me from about 10 fake profiles referring to it being who they are and again just threaten, swear and rant about how ugly my profile pic is and describe how they want to hurt me.. I've meet so many more wonderful people thru 5mile some becoming good friends of mine.Than those that are disrespectful of others and their time, Im not an store open 24/7. I'm just a person who has been downsizing and my family is downsizing. Someone who loves to fix things and sell rather than throw things to the curb. Someone getting Joy in something im selling is what makes my day..I do not depend or do this for a living. What ever i do not sell at a fair price i donate to several charities of my choice. I am careful for those few single minded, creepy, downright mean buyers and sellers. I try my best not let them pull me down to their level. Remembering everyone has bad moments, days or periods of time but its how they handle themselves after is what determined their real character. I try to refrain from reviewing people like that because you can not reason with people like that. There profile will be short lived on their own. They are only in it for the short quick buy or sell not to build a long term reputation and relationships. Its the later that I try to take the time to leave very special positive review not just 5 star everyone out of hast or fear. I hope it will be clear to others through those special personal comments in those reviews that they maybe special sellers and buyer in it for the long term. Those no afraid to be verified and put actual profile pictures. Im taking to time to leave this input choosing not to name other names. I try now to report all CLEARLY offensive inappropriate, dangerous..... ads, messages, chats or profiles to 5mile. I feel they must have a big and almost impossible job. But they have done the best for me in determining if others are having a bad day or a bad life.
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I agree with the info you are attempting to share "smackeroonies" its your delivery of that messages that does not help others feel they can share thier concerns in an open forum without being made fun of or verbally attacked in some way. Im a woman and do not want to "grow a pair" happy with what I got. Your message feels like those given on another sited forum ending in word List.
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( Can cause driving Accidents ) I do know that a lot of people on here who sell to others do make it a race and the sellers don’t communicate on others arrangements either. One of these days someone will get hurt over a race to buy an item when they see that’s it’s been sold under them while driving 30 mins. It’s all about communication and respect others. And keep in touch vice versa.
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I’m with Nancy, I have had the same things happen to me. I’ve also had 1 person who was stalking me served with a restraining order after the police arrested him. I am extra careful and if their not verified I don’t go alone to the meeting place or give them an address. I’m very grateful for my repeat customers and always cut them the best deals too. Like I say... The more you buy the better the deal you get.
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I’m with Nancy, I have had the same things happen to me. I’ve also had 1 person who was stalking me served with a restraining order after the police arrested him. I am extra careful and if their not verified I don’t go alone to the meeting place or give them an address. I’m very grateful for my repeat customers and always cut them the best deals too. Like I say... The more you buy the better the deal you get.
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